I finished reading Anger by my Monk. He said something that was a bit disheartening. He said Anger never goes away, its always with you. He used the image of a house having a livingroom and a basement. When one is confronted with something that pisses us off it’s the same as watering the seed of anger in the basement and it grows into the livingroom. When you allow someone to water your seed it just gets bigger, and bigger until your howl livingroom is consumed with the soul eating plant. (The flower from Little Shop of Horrors comes to mind). He instructs that we smile at it, breathe deeply in and then again out until you feel the anger return to a seed. Through practice, meaning mindful walking and mindful breathing so the time spent with the anger in the livingroom is as short as possible.
The thing that gets me is the whole smiling at it. What if I do that during the irksome têt et têt and I give my anger a smile, it would serve to piss off some people more. I’m sort of looking forward to the opportunity to try it out though.
I realize I have a lot of work to do in regards to my Wounded Child. I’ve purchased Homecoming by Bradshaw which is what Connie said I should read to work with my wounded child and then I got a new book from my Monk about how to be mindful in everyday life. Kind of like the book I read about Holiness in Every Day Life. Between those two I should be on my way to heal the wounded child and to practice Mindfulness in everyday life so the seeds of anger will never get past the stairs from the basement to the livingroom. My livingroom is crowded enough with my characters and plots, I don’t need the anger to crowd them out again.