I had a dream this morning, half awake and half asleep kind of dream. I heard my mother call me from her room. Not her normal morning call but more of a genial kind of invite. My mom was in her room and my sister S. was asleep in her bed while C was asleep down the hall. I walked into my Mom’s room and she was sitting on the far side of the bed while S slept. She was a solid vision, no apparition, do diaphanous edges, but solidly real. She came around to the end of the bed and I sat with her. I could feel her arm, literally feel. her. arm. I held on and hugged it. I apologized to her about not taking care of her the way I wanted to take care of her. I wanted to do better by her, but I just physically couldn’t and I couldn’t seem to rise above the fray in my mind which exhausted my body. (you know depression). I don’t remember if she accepted it or not, but it didn’t matter. I was able to say it to her. S. woke up and saw Mom but couldn’t hear her and C. came into the room and could hear her but not see her. Mom was happy. There wasn’t the roiling discontented aura she had in life, I think she was at peace. We wanted to know if she had seen my brothers J. and D. but she hadn’t. She didn’t want to face them. We encouraged her to see them. We didn’t believe they wouldn’t want to see her. I think I fell out of the magical level of sleep and into a deeper sleep because my dream degraded into something more surreal than pseudo-reality.
So, it’s been almost a year. 10 December 2017 feels like five years ago and yet it hasn’t even been a full 365 days. So much has happened this year, considering what I was dealing with there are days I am amazed I get out of bed at all. There is still a part of me that is a recalcitrant depressive but it has always been there, I’m learning how to work around it and move forward. The post Rectal-Cranial Inversion talked about how I “accidentally” hit June 6 as my start date for phlebotomy class. Had I stuck with that date I would have taken my test about the same time I took my test and I probably would have gotten my externship the same time too. Having the benefit of hindsight I realize the June 6th start date would have been a better time for me to go to school because my head, some days, is still solidly inverted but mostly not now. I wouldn’t have needed Red Bull to keep me awake through class, but it tweaked my anxiety to the point I couldn’t trust myself. For the externship I changed my buspar (anti-anxiety) and then dosed down my bupropion, my puppy-upper than can also tweak anxiety. Once I did that I didn’t panic and my externship people saw a noticeable difference. I’m planning on dosing down again in the new year to see if I can finally be free of some of these meds.
So, yes, I passed my test; 96/100. Not bad at all. I finished my externship with glowing reviews. I’ve gotten my certification and card from NCCT and I’m going to work with someone today about my licensing. I feel I am ready to go out on a job interview and nail it. At least I have the chemicals straight in my head so I don’t blather on like an idiot through the interview.
On the darker side of life I am still dealing with some of the little, annoying aspects of the depression. Like not taking care of myself. I have food but I don’t want to cook it, I’d rather go without or take a couple of spoonfuls of peanut butter and be done with it. I’m working as a Lyft driver so I’m having to have to be more social than I like and than still wipes me out. I need to shower more, but who doesn’t. To help with pushing out my bandwidth I have started courses that will put me back on the path to getting my bachelors degree. I’m going for a basic interdisciplinary degree so I can include my history credits from 100 years ago but then I’ll be able to put on my resume I finished university. I might even go further to get an MFA in writing. Again, my dreams writing checks my body may not be able to cash.
I’m happy though. I mean for the first time, in a long time, I’m happy. I’d be happier with more money, but God has always provided when the world wouldn’t. I don’t think I’m ever going to mourn for Mom, not the way some people do when they tear up when you mention their mother. There are still parts that are angry with her but after the dream not so much. It’s done and I’m moving forward…..one step at a time.